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Time to change  

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Alesia Ale


Some love stories aren't epic novels, some are short stories.

 Some people die for couple up. Sometimes it's nothing better than to be out of a relationship. You have time to do your laundry, read books, freedom to put music loud as you like… But the best part of being out of relationships is planning time to meet your friends and just do what you want to do without considering others habits and interests. That probably works only for some time. Afterwards you'll end up with a desire to love someone and to be loved.

I will not discover the New America if I will tell that girls are more emotional that guys. Oops, but after splitting up a normal girl with a bad ending experience from a relationship starts to make a pillow from her friends trying to say as much as she can about her experience. You cannot say it's bad, that means she trusts in you and she just tries to feel better herself.

It seems to be right not to try feeling guilty about it.  We all feel down after breaking up. In case we are talking about real relationship with feelings and some expectations. Certainly if this were healthy relationships you would be depressed if it was over. And we would always mourn the good stuff that we would miss so much. However, we would also be happy the things about the relationship that we had hated we would no longer have to endure. If the relationships were unhealthy one you would have the feeling of the huge relief that it had ended. All we need is time after breaking a relationship down. We need to realize some new aspects but without annoying and crossing the line talking too much about it.

At some point, you will move on from your current situation, whether your departure is precipitated by your surrounding and other stuff. Below are top tips for dealing with the breakups based on the experience of my friends:

1. Getting out of the apartment

2. Traveling

3. Hanging out with friends

4. Exercises

5. Being busy every minute in order not to stay alone with your own thoughts

6. Writing, that helps to press down your bleeding inside

7. Have fun

8. Make some reasonable future changes

9. Try to find "another object"

10. New passion / hobby

11. Cooking and baking

12. Sex therapy

13. Work! Work! Work!

14. Red lipstick

15. Just do the things that always make you happy :)

I'm not telling you should blindly follow it; some of them are not acceptable for me due to moral aspects. However, it possibly could help you analyze, make a conclusion and go forward to make your own happiness. True, sincere and reciprocal.

So a relationship is not about game, it's about matured and honest communications. But you can't deny that fact that a game is powerful, if you know what you are doing you totally can control the situation! Is it honest? Do you have to play games to make a relationship work? As an each game could be over as a relationship will come to an end. So don't play if you want to keep it as long as possible.

Maybe mistakes are what make our fate... without them what would shape our lives? Maybe if we had never veered off course we wouldn't fall in love, have babies, or be who we are. It's comfortable to know that there one you love and who loves you too. In my opinion, love is a dangerous thing, if you know it's dangerous that makes you treasure it, and you'll work harder to keep it. You should be very lucky to find your love without any previous experience. Being in a relationships is taking a risk.. so might it worth to be comfortable enough?